tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10378966.post4019153379880879473..comments2023-10-10T05:20:11.192-04:00Comments on Elementary, My Dear, or Far From It: Feeling LostJennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04725549451973770515noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10378966.post-64288333218813968732009-02-21T10:08:00.000-05:002009-02-21T10:08:00.000-05:00Sometimes maintaining consistency and normalcy is ...Sometimes maintaining consistency and normalcy is the best thing you can do. Assuming the rest of her life is unstable and unpredictable she probably craves what it is that you already give her. You provide a safe, nurturing environment that allows her to be just like everyone else. I think you probably do so much more for her than you give yourself credit for. <BR/><BR/>I don't know you or this situation but I have dealt with kids like this before. Sometimes in the process of trying to help we end up treating the kid differently than everyone else. This makes them uncomfortable and feeds into the helplessness. Knowing that every child is different you may just need to take your partners advice and just follows the child's cues. Best of luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10378966.post-46794833593603730892009-02-19T18:18:00.000-05:002009-02-19T18:18:00.000-05:00Being a student teacher currently, I wonder what I...Being a student teacher currently, I wonder what I would do?.? Is it best to just back off of her, or can you continue instruction to keep continuity? My wife just dealt with a student that had tragedy in his family, and it has definitely played into how she plans and the instruction she provides.Pete!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12511528601890537986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10378966.post-19258672157897707822009-02-19T10:31:00.000-05:002009-02-19T10:31:00.000-05:00I'm not a teacher yet, just an aspiring teacher w...I'm not a teacher yet, just an aspiring teacher working my way through school. Reading blogs like yours helps to prepare me for the real world of teaching- thank you for sharing your experiences.<BR/>I agree that the best thing for a young child with trauma is to keep the other parts of his/her life as normal as possible. I think it is important that you do let the child know that he/she can find comfort and trust in you but other than that, school may become a safe haven because of the consistent environment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10378966.post-44019709255261175592009-02-19T06:36:00.000-05:002009-02-19T06:36:00.000-05:00One of the hardest things I've had to learn as a t...One of the hardest things I've had to learn as a teacher, is that the kindest, most caring, most loving thing I can do is show that a normal life is possible-- that not everything will be taken a way with murder, abuse, loss or severe illness. I've had to learn that my children need my compassion, but not my pity. To feel sorry for a child can be crippling-- to have compassion is lifesaving. I can tell you've done everything right. Now give her the sense of competence that only a compassionate teacher can give. Good luck to her-- and good luck to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com